I choose

image credit Charlie Riedel

I woke up like this…

A smile to greet the world no matter what’s going on.

I choose how my day will go.

I choose how I will react to things around me.

I woke up like this…

To be positive no matter what or whoever is trying to break me.

I choose to think happy, bring joy, hope and peace that will come back to me.

I choose to be powerful and not react from a broken place no matter what happened to me in my life.

I woke up like this…

To give more of me and less things that will fade and not be remembered.

I choose to have compassion, empathy, intimacy, integrity and so much more.

I choose how I wake up!

By Denise Marie Hardnett

Self-Worth

close up photo of a woman
Photo by Marlon Schmeiski on Pexels.com

Listen…no judgement. I’m writing from experience. Life has taught me to love myself. If I don’t love me, or value me no one else will. No one else will treat me better than I treat myself. Make time for you each day.  No phones, computers or interruptions.  Find a quiet space and focus on you.

I’m a child of the most high, so I must stand on that truth!

It all starts with me. Taking the best care I can of me.  If that means praying, speaking affirmations, exercising, eating a balanced meal and practicing breathing techniques then DO IT! .  I promise that you will not be disappointed.

When you are at your best self no one can put you down by telling lies to lower your self worth.  That’s what abusers do. They tell lies to make you think you are crazy.  You have to change the very thing that makes you special.

Our creator made us unique and special, no two people are alike.  Are we perfect? No. No one is, but that’s okay.

When I love someone, I love all of them, flaws too.  Is it wrong to want the same thing? No!

Love you and wait patiently until the right person comes along.

Be blessed,

Denise Hardnett

“Love Doesn’t Have To Hurt”

Thanks for visiting and reading. Please leave a message and like.

Loving You

Love

You love your children. You love your husband. Your love your wife. You love your family. You love your friends. You love your job.
You love……. But you have to love yourself. In order to properly love others, you must love yourself first. This post is about Loving you. Learning to love yourself after Domestic Violence.  Help through all the stages beginning with self, and your children.

I am speaking from experience. The Beginning
I was living in an abusive relationship for years. You keep trying to fix the relationship, not realizing that you can’t fix, what’s not your problem. The Problem…Because my ex-husband wasn’t fulfilling the role of man, he started using and abusing alcohol and drugs regularly. When under the influence of alcohol and drugs he became a monster. The Result…The marriage affected me, my children and my immediate family. Thank God for family, friends and agencies that help women and children living with domestic violence.

Now that I am free, I am able to see, think, and meditate on me. I realized when you love yourself, you wouldn’t deal or put up with certain things. When someone really love you:
1. They will not hit, kick or punch you.
2. Their words will not hurt to your core.
3. They would think of you because they do something wrong.
4. They would listen to you.
5. They would respect your feelings.
6. They would build you up.
7. They would not lie to you.
8. They would correct you with Love.

I had to learn how to continue to love and forgive my abusive ex-husband. My next post will be on forgiveness.