One Man & One Woman

A man is a strong king, has self-love, and is confident. Because he sees her. He will never disrespect or beat her, in turn always protect her.

He cherished his queen.

He loves her completely. 

He reserves a special word, moment, or look just for her.

Trust and friendship are so strong no one can break.

Safe to be yourself, unique and transparent.

A man understands the two twines together.

With her self-love, esteem, and heart is whole and feminine.

She falls in love with his mind, words, and how he cares for her. Smiles at him that reaches her soul that produces love and respect.

She values his strength, words, opinions, and actions.

She cares about and understands his role in her life.

She respects and appreciates his feelings.

She knows how and what to do for her king to keep him strong mentally, physically, and emotional.

A teen Mom I loved you, before you were born.

 

I had to grow up fast it wasn’t about me. Only thinking of a better life with you.

 

My child you mean the world to me, this poem celebrates you.  

 

The day you were born Heaven opened and spoke-then there were you, an angel.

 

Innocent, precious and new…

 

As you grew to use your wings to soar.

Then there were you, my child. I would know you anywhere.

 

Your smile sweetly warms my heart.

Your eyes sparkle brighten my day.

Your touch gently soothes me.

Your smell invigorates emotions in my soul.

Your voice calmly gives me peace.

Was all uniquely you.

 

Along the way I lost my way. Please forgive me. Daddy hitting Mommy is never okay.

 It was not your fault. My child, you always deserve the best that I have.

 

Then there was you, the diamond in my eyes and me broken and bruised. 

Because of me, so were you experiencing my pain. No one-including you and me deserves to be treated less than the best.

 

It was never your fault.

 

I am responsible for you, my child. It’s not your fault you couldn’t save me.

 

 Forgiveness is for us. 

 

Then there were you with me. I love you, my child.

By Denise Marie Hardnett

No More

I just want you to know that you are unique, important, and special. It’s only one YOU. So, please don’t forget that just because I did.

Because of pain, I allowed others to treat me a certain way. I learned it’s never too late to change. Start where you are now. Right Now!!! Learn from your past, don’t live there or continue to let it define YOU.

No More.

 

Value yourself, your time, and your morals no matter what others may say or think. Manage all of you, that includes your feelings, your emotions, and your triggers for the best YOU.

 

If the person that say they love you barely calls, show up, or follows through, then they’re not for YOU.

No More.

 

Let them go, let go of the pain, let go of worry, or whatever wastes your time, money, or energy.

 

YOU decide how long you sit in your pain.

No More.

 

Once you make up your mind to say No More, the pain has no more power over YOU.

 

You don’t need anyone to say I’m sorry for you to heal, grow, or change.

 

YOU free yourself to live in your greatness. Let the right people, places, and things in your life.

 

Allow yourself to be worthy, happy and peaceful.

 

By Denise M. Hardnett

Forgiveness is for you!

Love
The greatest love of all!
New year equals new possibilities

Bring in the New Year happy and whole! Let go and let God.

Life is too short to hang on to things that we can’t change.

People are dying every day. So let’s focus on the LOVE and FORGIVENESS.

God taught me to love with a pure heart. It didn’t happened over night. I had to process my emotions and feelings by writing them down.

Writing down the pain of the person that you trusted with your heart, love and apart of your life. With God we can forgive them.

I am willing to forgive. You know forgiveness is for ME.

Think about it. As long as you hate or hang on to unforgiveness. It’s like a prison for you. Meaning your happiness and joy stop.

The Process…Think about it?

We must find the love, the courage to forgive them. When you forgive them, only to free yourself. When you forgive them it is not only pleasing to God but it will be pleasing to you as well.  We must live our life to do good and that same goodness will one day come back to us.  Don’t worry it will find you.

It’s also wise to forgive when you have children together. Children love unconditional, with that being said your children will love the abuser anyway.  Please never talk bad about the other person.  Your children will find out in other ways.

What happens…..When you forgive:
1. You free yourself
2. You don’t feel anger or hate when someone bring up their name.
3. The thought of them, don’t mess you up inside.

4.Effect your day.
5. When you can stand to face them and be great.
6. Hear their voice. Remember what happen without the pain.

7.  You feel love and then you want to continue to share that love.

8.  You tell others, so they can be feel to love too.  After all, sharing is caring!

Victory
You must forgive everyone that hurt you. When you’re able to forgive, that’s when you’re healing process begins. Once your start you’re healing process, yes, it will hurt at first. Each day will get better and better.

Then you will grow and discover the love and beauty within you. Like a beautiful butterfly, blossoming flower, or praise dancing or Like a boy becoming a man.

I telling you this process because I lived with my abuser so many years and I have forgiven him and myself.  Forgiveness is so beautiful and its a gift you give yourself.  Forgiveness is Victory

Define what is forgiveness? Forgive, forgiveness is to give up resentment of or claim to requital for an insult. Merriam-Webster Dictionary

Please read what the Bible say about Forgiveness in a Biblical article.

Forgiveness is letting go of hurt and pain.

Thanks for reading and come again.

Bless,

Denise

I AM Worthy

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Who am I “A Specific Purpose for your Life”

Hi Everyone, and welcome. If this is your first time visiting welcome and I’m glad you stopped by. If you been here before welcome back. I appreciate you all.

It’s truly all about Love. It’s important to love yourself, but first do you know who you are?

Who Am I

The best ways to find your true self is to journal. Keep a notepad or writing book with you at all times to write down your thoughts, feelings and events that happened to you.

Think about Who you are? Write whatever comes to mind for 30 days. Then, think about what you want to do with your life? Journal for 30 days.

Journal about your strengths, goals, any other questions that will help you know yourself. Focus on each questions one at a time for 30 days. By the time you are done. You should have a very good idea who you are and what you want to do and how to achieve it.

When you know who you are, you love yourself better. When you love yourself, you know your worth. That leads to you not letting people treat you in abusive ways.

I didn’t know my worth because of domestic violence and abuse.

It’s so important that we love one another, even our enemies.  Please forgive your enemies and all the people that hurt you.   And the people you may have hurt.  You can’t move on with your life from carrying burdens and regrets.

I know the importance of love and my worth. Now, I want to share with you.

A guide to finding your purpose in your life.  Please read this article”A Specific Purpose for your Life”  It helped me and I know it will help you too.

Thank you for reading and please leave a message.  I look forward to hearing from you,

Denise

Part 2 of Forgiveness Introducing my Guest Blogger

A couple weeks ago we talked about Forgiveness. My guest blogger is Vivian.  I interviewed Vivian on the steps of forgiveness she’s taken.  Bringing Part 2 of Forgiveness

Vivian’s word of wisdom on Forgiveness. Vivian’s speaking from experience, while growing up she had to endure betrayal from people that supposed to love her.

Learning to forgive and let go of the past. The past doesn’t mean last year, it could be last week, or even yesterday.

Step 1
Give your life to Jesus Christ and have Relationship with God
The first thing, realize the Love of God. John 3:16
The first fruit of the Spirit is Love
Manifest that Love, and walk in the fruit of the Spirit.
First Fruit is the Spirit is Love, Joy, Peace, Long-Suffering, Goodness, Kindness, Faithfulness, Meekness and Self-Control.

Step 2
Read Psalms 23 Daily That I may see God face in the scriptures

Step 3
Believe

Step 4

If you never forgive, how can you go or move forward?

Think of this: “If you say I forgive you butI will never forget.” Then if you are always bring it up then you’re still in bondage to it. Meaning you haven’t forgiven.

When you truly forgive…
True forgiven comes through the Grace of God because God takes the hurt and pain out of it. God gives you his Beauty for our ashes.

Quote
I can forgive but It can’t forget, its only another way of saying I will not forgive. A Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note, torn in two and burned up, so that it can never be shown against the person.
Henry Ward Beecher

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Best,

Denise

Faith from the Inside Out

Hi Family and Friends,

“Faith from the Inside Out” is a screenplay 2nd part of my book “Love Doesn’t have to Hurt”   With prayer I am developing and writing for families living with or surviving domestic violence.   “Faith from the Inside Out” purpose is to inspire,  change lives for a better you.  It’s about a series of life challenges designed for families, especially children.  It will be written,  Illustrated and easy to understand teaching about Faith, Love and Forgiveness.  It will satisfy curiosity and  promote growth  shown with vivid colors, drawing, coloring and reading.  Through the process learning without Faith ~ to ~ learning with Faith, Love and Forgiveness how it will work in your life.  Please look out for my new book series, that I have the pleasure and opportunity to share with you.  Please checkout this link from my Pastor Creflo Dollar

http://www.worldchangers.org/Monthly-ObeyFaith.aspx

the best,

Denise

Happy New Year! New Beginnings

We made it!

Let’s go into the New Year with a renewed Mind.  Its all about forgiveness.  Please ask God to help you forgive your abuser, so you will be free to feel love, have peace and happiness.

If you can talk about a painful experience that you had and not feel anger, then you have been healed through God’s Grace and Mercy.

Read Genesis 32:31, 32

I am writing a book, Love Doesn’t have to Hurt.  I promise to keep you posted.

Happy New Year!

Thinking of You

Thinking of You

Thinking of you is like a cool breeze on a Summer day thanks for keeping me safe

Summer days warms the soul and makes you look forward to another day thanks to you I have another day

Another day promised by God

God is my everything and I thank God for sharing you with me

With Me and You there is true Love, Family, Friendship, and Warmth thinking of You.

Happy Birthday, Nicky and Ramon (twins)