When we stay in an abusive relationships, we suffer and our children suffer the most. Most times we lose us, our purpose and dreams, only to survive. It’s time to get back to finding you! Your life matters!
Finding your purpose, take action. Don’t give up.
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” (Matthew 6:33).
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11, NIV).
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28).
Living everyday is a struggle for us but we can change that by trusting in God. Once we have that personal relationship, we will begin to love yourself.
When we love us, then we will make better choices. Only then, we will leave that abusive relationship.
Ask yourself these questions to find out and write them down to hold your self accountable. Take action to finding your purpose in life.
If you had one year to live, what would you do or go everyday?
Try something new?
What do you feel deep in your spirit?
What ignites your passion in your soul?
What comes natural for you?
What idea or ideas you can’t let go of?
What can you do for free?
What do you do and you forget about the time?
Once you answer all these questions, you should know your purpose.
God bless and remember Grace girls rock. Share and comment. Thanks for visiting and come again.
To those of you who have been in an abusive relationship and found the courage to leave, we are not alone. We are still standing! We are standing in our truth! We are standing in our strength! We are standing in our Power! Many of us had to make the decision to leave the person who told us they loved us the most. But remember, “Love doesn’t have to hurt”.
I am so glad you decided to leave and you are in a safe place. The most important thing is that you and your children are safe. And if you don’t have children, then you are safe.
When I left my abusive relationship I had a girlfriend that I confided in and I also attended counseling with an agency for domestic violence in my area. If you have a girlfriend, family member or are residing in a shelter, praise God you are safe.
Yes, you are going to miss him and yes, he is going to try to convince you to come back home, if he knows where you are. Continue to be strong and each day it will get easier and easier. Stand in your power after leaving!
What helped me after taking him back a thousand times was to start journaling. When I thought about all the good times, which didn’t amount to a lot, I read the journal again to keep me focused on what I had to do. I also realized that he really didn’t love me and didn’t care about me and I am better without him. I grew tired of listening to the broken promises and dreams. I also realized that he choose me because I had a good heart and spirit, only to use me. Love Doesn’t Have to Hurt.
If you decide to go back, be safe and have a safety plan and back up plan in place. Make sure he attends counseling for domestic violence. Regular counseling or anger management will not address the problems of domestic violence.
It took me awhile to get to where I am today. I left and went back to him several times before I finally left for good. Never forget that God loves you and you are beautiful and very special. Love yourself and be safe.
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Deciding to leave your abuser. If you are hoping, and praying your abuser will change?
It good to pray. They have to let God change them. You can’t change them. Real change comes from the person. The abuse will happen again, if they don’t seek counseling from a domestic violence counselor. Create a support system of trusted family and friends. There is also agencies in your area.
Things to do. Please keep private from your abuser. Keep a journal to document the abuse. Collect important papers and clothing in a safe place. Extra set of keys. Notify your job, school or daycare.
Abusers have deep rooted emotional and probably psychological problems. It takes time to change. The hardest part is leaving and you worry about what will happen once you leave. Love Doesn’t have to Hurt.
Signs that your abuser is not changing:
1. He minimizes that abuse
2. He tells you if you wouldn’t have done this or that then it wouldn’t happen
3. You have to push them to seek counseling
4. If you leave, they will commit suicide or kill you.
5. He pressures you
6. Know your abuser
7. Be safe by making up a code to use in a time of emergency