What is your Light? Everyone’s Light is different and the brightness too. Guess what, no matter what everyone has light to share.
My light is care, compassion, and acceptance. I believe that when I care about others. Offer compassion and acceptance helps to build trust in relationships with others.
We all have gifts as in light to touch other’s hearts to bring truth, joy, and peace.
Sometimes we come in contact with people that need help and resources for depression, anxiety, and abuse. Use your light to support, empower, and encourage them. They are worthy.
I just want you to know that you are unique, important, and special. It’s only one YOU. So, please don’t forget that just because I did.
Because of pain, I allowed others to treat me a certain way. I learned it’s never too late to change. Start where you are now. Right Now!!! Learn from your past, don’t live there or continue to let it define YOU.
No More.
Value yourself, your time, and your morals no matter what others may say or think. Manage all of you, that includes your feelings, your emotions, and your triggers for the best YOU.
If the person that say they love you barely calls, show up, or follows through, then they’re not for YOU.
No More.
Let them go, let go of the pain, let go of worry, or whatever wastes your time, money, or energy.
YOU decide how long you sit in your pain.
No More.
Once you make up your mind to say No More, the pain has no more power over YOU.
You don’t need anyone to say I’m sorry for you to heal, grow, or change.
YOU free yourself to live in your greatness. Let the right people, places, and things in your life.
When we stay in an abusive relationships, we suffer and our children suffer the most. Most times we lose us, our purpose and dreams, only to survive. It’s time to get back to finding you! Your life matters!
Finding your purpose, take action. Don’t give up.
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” (Matthew 6:33).
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11, NIV).
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28).
Living everyday is a struggle for us but we can change that by trusting in God. Once we have that personal relationship, we will begin to love yourself.
When we love us, then we will make better choices. Only then, we will leave that abusive relationship.
Ask yourself these questions to find out and write them down to hold your self accountable. Take action to finding your purpose in life.
If you had one year to live, what would you do or go everyday?
Try something new?
What do you feel deep in your spirit?
What ignites your passion in your soul?
What comes natural for you?
What idea or ideas you can’t let go of?
What can you do for free?
What do you do and you forget about the time?
Once you answer all these questions, you should know your purpose.
God bless and remember Grace girls rock. Share and comment. Thanks for visiting and come again.
To those of you who have been in an abusive relationship and found the courage to leave, we are not alone. We are still standing! We are standing in our truth! We are standing in our strength! We are standing in our Power! Many of us had to make the decision to leave the person who told us they loved us the most. But remember, “Love doesn’t have to hurt”.
I am so glad you decided to leave and you are in a safe place. The most important thing is that you and your children are safe. And if you don’t have children, then you are safe.
When I left my abusive relationship I had a girlfriend that I confided in and I also attended counseling with an agency for domestic violence in my area. If you have a girlfriend, family member or are residing in a shelter, praise God you are safe.
Yes, you are going to miss him and yes, he is going to try to convince you to come back home, if he knows where you are. Continue to be strong and each day it will get easier and easier. Stand in your power after leaving!
What helped me after taking him back a thousand times was to start journaling. When I thought about all the good times, which didn’t amount to a lot, I read the journal again to keep me focused on what I had to do. I also realized that he really didn’t love me and didn’t care about me and I am better without him. I grew tired of listening to the broken promises and dreams. I also realized that he choose me because I had a good heart and spirit, only to use me. Love Doesn’t Have to Hurt.
If you decide to go back, be safe and have a safety plan and back up plan in place. Make sure he attends counseling for domestic violence. Regular counseling or anger management will not address the problems of domestic violence.
It took me awhile to get to where I am today. I left and went back to him several times before I finally left for good. Never forget that God loves you and you are beautiful and very special. Love yourself and be safe.
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God is love, the true Healer. I don’t think God wanted us to continue to accept and live with someone hurting us, which is domestic violence. When I was with my abusive ex-husband, he always said, “If I loved him, I wouldn’t leave him or if I was a real Christian I would stay by his side.”
Yes, I realize we will go through things in a relationship like pain, sorrow, loss along with joy, peace, love and happiness. Because that is life, but we can control suffering at the hands of our abusers. There is help and we can take back our lives-take responsibility to change our life for our children and ourself. Love Doesn’t Hurt, read 1 Corinthians 13:4,5,6,7,13
4 Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. 13 And now these remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
The Bible is the truth.
Our abuser beat and attacks us for control and that is the time when they are in the most control. Please know that love is not insecure, neglect, angry and mean. We though our abusers loved us and we truly loved them and somehow wanted to change them. But the truth is, they have to change themselves, just like you have to change you. We confused those feeling for love, now we know it was fear, lack of love, hurt. Because Love Doesn’t have to Hurt. Love Doesn’t have to Hurt Inspirational guide for Women in domestic violence coming out October 2015 please look out for it.
Simply Grace 
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