I understand, it’s not your fault.  So don’t blame yourself.  Nobody wakes up and says they want to be in an abusive relationship.  I am an expert on this issue because I am a survivor of domestic violence.  I want to provide valuable resources to help you.

One day you are in love, trusting the love of your life, spending time with your best friend and planning your future. Then, realizing the one person you trust and love unconditionally are telling you ugly horrible things, even going as far as hitting and abusing you.  The ultimate betrayal.

Steps you need to take if you are leaving…

1. First, you have to realize you are in an abusive relationship and it’s not your fault. Set your mind on leaving.
2. The key point is changing the way you think.
3. Start putting money away, collecting important documents and keeping a journal.
4. Plan your trip and where you are going to stay.
5. Leave when your abuser is not home.
6. Change your phone number.
7. Reconnect and communicate with family and friends.
8. Have support systems in place and attend group counseling.

Thank you for visiting and reading my article on tips on leaving an abusive relationship.  Feel free to share with others and leave a comment. I will include a Safety Plan and Steps for starting an Order of Protection in the next two articles.

Best,

Denise Hardnett

“Love Doesn’t Have To Hurt”